9.On what occasion do you lie?

I try not to, and I don't like to, but saying I don't lie, would be a lie. I lie when a friends hair looks like shit, but she is too drunk to really care, or for it to matter, and I tell her it's fine, and really, it's fine, nobody is looking at her hair anyway, as it's not her best feature and it gets overlooked anyway, but I wouldn't ever tell her that it looks bad. I lie to my father, or more importantly, I omit what he doesn't need to know. My life as a 43 yr old single mother and woman is full of private matters. I lie to my co-workers about what I do in my personal life, whether I went out drinking and dancing on my evenings off, or if I spent a night alone curled up in bed crying or eating a half gallon of ice cream. I lie when people ask me things that are none of their business about me, my life, or what I think about certain things and situations.. I may not out right lie, but sitting in silence or not acknowledging their questions is an omission of truth. I lie to a friend when I think that she is ok, when really, she's a mess. I lie to people when they ask how I am doing, as I don't want to burden them with my issues and have them captured by my rants and raves about injustice and pollution in the world I live in. When I'm sad or upset, I lie that I'm OK. I like to live a private life, and don't want others imposing their ideas or unwanted advice. I lie to keep my life how I want it, I only open up to those who might be in it, and that I am truly interested in. I have no reason to lie, but I also don't have any reason to tell the truth, the whole truth about me, especially to people who are not invested in my well being. I have seen that truth and lies are totally on an as needed to know basis, solely based upon whom you are telling this lie or truth to. Lies are often to protect others feelings, as the idea of wanting the whole truth, the scene resonates of "you can't handle the truth" is probably the most truthful statement in a movie ever. However, I have also said I would rather hear the awful truth over a sweet lie. I think out right total honesty when it comes to matters of the heart is important, in any relationship being truthful is the best action to take. But in the day to day interaction with strangers, and people who are nosy, gossips, sometimes telling them a lie is much much better than the truth.

8.What do you consider the most overrated virtue?

I had to do a little research on this one, and chose the seven virtues according to the Catholic catechism which are: Chastity, Temperance, Charity, Diligence, Patience, Kindness, and Humility. I find it odd that this question asks which is most overrated, almost wanting me to admit to my sin and evaluate which of these I have chosen to ignore. Being Catholic and also well versed in which of these are important, and why, it seems as though our human behavior always sets one virtue aside for our own ego, own desires, own self indulgence, the opposite of these virtues are interesting: Chastity-Lust and it doesn't imply just abstaining from sexual encounters, it's about purity, practicing courtly love and romantic friendship rather than sex. Remaining pure from intoxicants as well. Temperance-Gluttony, temperance is simply practicing self control, Prudence to judge between actions with regard to appropriate actions at a given time. Gluttony we know is being overly self indulgent and considering ones actions over others. Charity-Greed, being generous, not just of goods or money, but of time, and self, always thinking what is better for others. Greed and gluttony go well together, usually they are the left and right hands of a corrupt individual. Diligence-Sloth, being diligent in work, steadfast and having a work ethic, upholding one's own actions without being watched, having integrity, not being lazy. Patience-Wrath, having patience teaches us more about others than it does about ourselves, and wrath is going about in an antagonistic manner, causing strife and drama. Patience is grace. Kindness-Envy we do tend to not be very nice to those we envy, kindness is empathy and trust without prejudice or resentment. Envy is causing strife, often times in our own life. Humility-Pride Modest behavior, selflessness, and the giving of respect. Giving credit where credit is due; not unfairly glorifying one's own self. Being faithful to promises, no matter how big or small they may be. Prideful is all about me, what I do, and how well I do it.. LOOK AT ME, look at what I do, and often times in a martyrdom kind of way. What virtues have I allowed myself to view as overrated? In my own life I have not upheld chastity and patience. I never had any examples of these being upheld and respected. Sexual gratification has been in the media main stream for decades now, and patience, we are a want it now people, especially Americans, we want what we want and we want it NOW. It has even gotten worse with so much instant gratification at our fingertips, including that of sexual gratification. However, I can see where these virtues are very important, had I not viewed them as overrated I know I would have made better choices and been better off overall.