12.What is the quality you most like in a man? 13.What is the quality you most like in a woman?

Both of these seem the same. I would like to take it as a platonic view first. The qualities I most like in a woman and a man who are going to be my friends, is someone who has integrity, values, virtues, trustworthy, honesty, and humble. I like women who don't put each other down, who are not catty or uptight. I don't care for people who are judgmental. I prefer people who are open minded and smart, empathetic and understanding. I like friends who can act like adults, take the heat, but willing to dish it out if its necessary, when I need a smack to the head.. As for quality I like most in men, especially men I may be interested in, other than all the things I already mentioned there are a few additional items. I like men who like animals and children, men who know their place in the world and honor women and their place. Men who aren't hung up on roles or ideals of how a man should be, or how a woman should be. Men who can look into the heart of a woman and see her beauty, not just her breasts. Men who truly value what it means to be with a good woman, honor her, cherish her, and be there for her. A man who cares for his children and does all he can for them. I like a man who can often times put others first for their own happiness and well being, and sacrifices himself for his kids, and his spouse. Other than a man with a ready smile, happy demeanor, and good sense of humor, a man who is a good friend to his friends, a man who is a good brother, and son as well, and a man who is a good father and man for his woman. Of course I also like physical attributes in men, nice smile, clean appearance, beards are nice, taller than me, a good libido and desire to please me in the bedroom. But what quality do I like most of all, openness. As I feel openness encompasses all the other qualities, as a servant kind of man, servant of God will be open for all virtues, helpfulness, and qualities that I like most in a man.

10.What do you most dislike about your appearance? 11.Which living person do you most despise?

What do I most dislike about my appearance. My middle, I don't like the muffin spare tire of flab in the middle of my body, I don't like the extra weight I have been hanging onto as a crutch for my own emotional distress and lack of wanting to change it, as that would take work. I have done so much to work on the inner me, changed my view and perception of life and others, became more grounded in my faith, released friends and family who were toxic, embraced those who were not. Doing so alone has taken a lot of work, and work I was in dire need of. I noticed I was broken, years of a demanding one sided marriage, I let myself go. I am now ready to embark on changing the weight issue, I'm sure when it's off I'll know there is something else I won't like about my appearance, I hope not though. I put the priority of where it needed to be, my inner person, my core, my me who makes up who I really am. After all, that is what I find most attractive about myself, who I am, and I'm beautiful, despite my frumpy appearance. Doing double duty on this questions and probably will from now on.. the living person I most despise is my ex husband, Michael. He is a taker, and takes so much out of me, our children, and only gives if he's getting something in return. He's exhausting and just his presence makes my skin crawl. I have to work very hard to be a civil person to him, for the sake of our children. I am capable of being upfront, trustworthy, and honest with my children. He is not. I despise who he is, and all his agendas. I cannot wait for the day that I don't have to have anything to do with him. Just a little over 9 more years to go, then I can completely write him off. I've been counting down for several years already.. waiting is the hardest part.