Sunday, September 15, 2013

2.What is your greatest fear?

What is my greatest fear? I'm stuck on this, I have many fears, and grew up in a house with a worry wart, fearful father who never took a step out of his comfort zone in fear of many many things. But the real fears are that I fear my own death before my young children are grown and able to take care of themselves, but that is for their sake, not for mine. I don't fear death, unless it is that of one of my children, as I think that would be every parents greatest fear, however, I have known quite a few, too many really, who have experienced the loss of a child and have gone on. I would be devastated, but would go on for the sake of my other children. So, these things are the fear of the unknown. But not knowing what the outcome will be doesn't keep me from trying or experiencing new things. However, with each new step in a new direction, I do have that underlying fear, and it rules my life too much. When I have stepped out of my comfort zone, taken risks, I didn't have disastrous results, things just changed, or were different, not always for the good, but some were for the good. Not always without struggle, and sometimes with more issues compounding it, making me more fearful of my own decisions, fearful of my own next move. So I falter, I stifle, I keep myself in check, primarily out of fear of losing my job, losing my mind, losing something, someone precious to me. The fear of loss, has been something I've struggled with. I kept people I shouldn't have in my life for far too long because I feared the loss of the relationship, only to lose myself in the process. I feared taking a chance, because I feared my own failure and being unsuccessful, but mostly feared being shamed. I feared not having approval, not making others happy, but not making myself happy in that process as well. I have many fears that I have conquered, but they also still haunt me. Like visions of the past of my pain and heartache because of giving into my fears, that should be a reminder of how I also know that fear is a LIAR and will keep you from reaching your full potential, which is another fear of not being good enough. What is my greatest fear though? Watching one of my own children suffer pain, injury and die, it's a realistic fear, one I hope to never have to experience, I fear not dying before they do.

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